Comments on: Mindful Parenting: The Transformation of FRUSTRATION http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/mindful-parentingthe-transformation-of-frustration/ Thu, 15 Jul 2010 21:17:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Andrea Kasper http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/mindful-parentingthe-transformation-of-frustration/comment-page-1/#comment-1443 Andrea Kasper Mon, 15 Jun 2009 11:20:05 +0000 http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/the-transformation-of-frustration/#comment-1443 Thank you for this post, I think since becoming a mom 16 months ago I have slowly been coming to this realization, whether it turns into frustration (which I guess it inevitably will) I think as you said the emotion stmes from ideas of what should be. As I listen to my own feelings and those of other moms I reflect on what I hear, I deserve.....finiosh the sentence and then when I can´t get that end of the sentence anger and furtration rear their heads. Clearly all mom need to find time and space for themselves, but if we parent mindfully I don´t think we will need it as desperately because we won´t feel as worn out/burnt out. Life as a mom is different than before being a mom, as long as I can let go of "I deserve to sit in quiet and do my own thing at least once a day/to go to the gym/to eat without interuption" if I can let it go and turn it around, to understand that these moments will all be gone before I know it, then I am filled with more love, for me, my husband and my baby girl. Thank you for all your reminders, I am sitting here reading all of your posts Thank you for this post, I think since becoming a mom 16 months ago I have slowly been coming to this realization, whether it turns into frustration (which I guess it inevitably will) I think as you said the emotion stmes from ideas of what should be. As I listen to my own feelings and those of other moms I reflect on what I hear, I deserve…..finiosh the sentence and then when I can´t get that end of the sentence anger and furtration rear their heads. Clearly all mom need to find time and space for themselves, but if we parent mindfully I don´t think we will need it as desperately because we won´t feel as worn out/burnt out. Life as a mom is different than before being a mom, as long as I can let go of “I deserve to sit in quiet and do my own thing at least once a day/to go to the gym/to eat without interuption” if I can let it go and turn it around, to understand that these moments will all be gone before I know it, then I am filled with more love, for me, my husband and my baby girl. Thank you for all your reminders, I am sitting here reading all of your posts

]]> By: Hugh Kane http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/mindful-parentingthe-transformation-of-frustration/comment-page-1/#comment-29 Hugh Kane Wed, 09 Apr 2008 12:14:07 +0000 http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/the-transformation-of-frustration/#comment-29 I have been waking up nearly every morning for the past few weeks with a feeling of frustration/anger being in dominance in my consciousness. This anger wants to kick out violently in its frustration. I didn't know its reason for being there at this time, why the part of me that was so angry and frustrated was showing up. Each morning when I felt it, I tried just to allow it to be there. I put my awareness on it(I feel it mostly concentrated in my solar plexus area as a pressure or tightness or sometimes as if I am being gripped tightly by something like a claw) As I focus my awareness on it I can feel it also on my forehead and the top of my head as a pressure. Putting my awareness on these areas would usually dissipate the frustration, sometimes in a few minutes,other times up to a couple of hours. I had a vague knowing that maybe the frustration was showing up because of past wounds and/or my own dissatisfactions with what I concieved of as my, "spiritual progress".I can now acknowledge that most of the frustration is coming from the expectations I have had for myself and my judgements on these expectations not being fulfilled. This I now realise is an old story which I still have a belief about. This old story no longer serves me, I have no expectations, I am alreaddy what I am and it is enough always. Many thanks for the realisation and sharing your story. I have been waking up nearly every morning for the past few weeks with a feeling of frustration/anger being in dominance in my consciousness. This anger wants to kick out violently in its frustration. I didn’t know its reason for being there at this time, why the part of me that was so angry and frustrated was showing up. Each morning when I felt it, I tried just to allow it to be there. I put my awareness on it(I feel it mostly concentrated in my solar plexus area as a pressure or tightness or sometimes as if I am being gripped tightly by something like a claw) As I focus my awareness on it I can feel it also on my forehead and the top of my head as a pressure. Putting my awareness on these areas would usually dissipate the frustration, sometimes in a few minutes,other times up to a couple of hours. I had a vague knowing that maybe the frustration was showing up because of past wounds and/or my own dissatisfactions with what I concieved of as my, “spiritual progress”.I can now acknowledge that most of the frustration is coming from the expectations I have had for myself and my judgements on these expectations not being fulfilled. This I now realise is an old story which I still have a belief about. This old story no longer serves me, I have no expectations, I am alreaddy what I am and it is enough always. Many thanks for the realisation and sharing your story.

]]> By: Dawn White http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/mindful-parentingthe-transformation-of-frustration/comment-page-1/#comment-20 Dawn White Tue, 18 Mar 2008 02:14:48 +0000 http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/the-transformation-of-frustration/#comment-20 Dearest Meghan, I read this earlier today--I could really relate to it and I am still sitting with you in that rocking chair, breathing in the silence of the night, the warmth of your sweet little boy, and the harmony of your spirit. Thank you so much for this sweet story! With much love, Dawn Dearest Meghan,

I read this earlier today–I could really relate to it and I am still sitting with you in that rocking chair, breathing in the silence of the night, the warmth of your sweet little boy, and the harmony of your spirit. Thank you so much for this sweet story!

With much love,
Dawn

]]> By: Kevin Murray http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/mindful-parentingthe-transformation-of-frustration/comment-page-1/#comment-19 Kevin Murray Fri, 14 Mar 2008 16:58:44 +0000 http://www.lifemasteryprograms.com/2008/03/07/the-transformation-of-frustration/#comment-19 i could feel your frustration shift as i read the story. this would be a great contribution to "Mothering" magazine. thanks for sharing your experience. kevin i could feel your frustration shift as i read the story. this would be a great contribution to “Mothering” magazine. thanks for sharing your experience.
kevin

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